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Carla Tara - The Intimacy Expert

I’m Carla Tara, and I’ve spent 30 years helping people just like you transform their sexual relationships into sources of great pleasure, boundless energy, and deep intimate connection.

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In a relationship Love is a verb, not a permanent state of enthusiasm that you believe it is when you are of falling in love. This feeling is an exciting and exuberant state that we all long for. It’s a state induced by hormones that nature produces in abundance to keep us together in order to reproduce. You often become blind to defects and you see only what we want to see.The shadow side of the other person will become visible when the “in love” state ends. That’s when the knowledge of Tantra comes in to save the day and transform the projection into real, passionate, profound love that lasts.

Learning to love someone who is not perfect is an art that can be developed. It’s a decision to love yourself and your partner as you are. Tantra is an approach to love that helps you to love consciously, to renew the desire to love every day. Love is then a choice. It can transform the unconscious falling in love into the art of choosing to love using tantric skills. You realize that no one is perfect and can fulfill your imagination.

Love does not mean floating on air. It required an awakened, conscious state that constantly changes. A very important question you ask yourself often is “what can I do today to express love, or at least acceptance?”

Setting the intention to love is the first key of Tantra. Tantra teaches to communicate artfully, keeping in mind the sensitivities of your lover in order not to create resistance. The idea is to support him or her to accept what they are feeling and skillfully guiding them towards love.

Here are 5 keys to a successful relationship:

1. Find as many ways as possible to be grateful for the joy that the relationship brings. This might take letting go of your projections and wishful thinking. Give compliments as often as you can. Magnify what’s right about your relationship and expanding it by talking to friends about it as well.

2. When you are stuck in negative relationship pattern, do something crazy to break out of the rut. Perhaps do something that gets you into your body fast like jumping up and down and making power sounds. After that it’s much easier to get embody your natural loving self. It’s now easier to do something that supports both you and your partner.

3. When you are charged with anger, find your own center by taking 3 slow conscious breaths and then visualize yourself in a peaceful, pleasurable mood. Your intuition will guide you to choose the right visualization. If you are more kinesthetic then visual, feel yourself being caressed from head to toe by the most beautiful soft hands, or feel the calm waves playing with your naked body as you are lying down on desert beach.

4. Surprise your partner with something unexpected at least once a week. It does not have to be something big. It could be something as simple as a different way you greet him or her when they come back from work. It could be giving a hug that lasts at least 12 seconds instead of the usual 3 second squeeze, or a French kiss…

5. Take a risk! Everyone loves fun spontaneous actions. At the appropriate moment, make him or her a proposal that he/she cannot refuse. Turning around your usual role pattern is always a great surprise in a relationship. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Intimacy also has so much to do with being able to laugh, fool around, and have fun together.

Would you and your partner like to discover new ways to explore your sexplay and physical intimacy? Do you want to recharge your passion?

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Would you and your partner like to discover new ways to explore your sexplay and physical intimacy? Do you want to recharge your passion in a relationship that is feeling stale?

Call me at 917-513-2500 or email me to discuss a private couples session!
I have moved to Maui, Hawai’i and sessions are available on island or through Facetime or Skype. Stay tuned for news of my next New York visit.

Do you struggle talking with your partner about what you want? Is it hard to share your dreams, or your challenges? I can help the two of you learn how to talk with open, loving communication that lets you feel heard while you support and cherish your partner.

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