I want to tell you a story today about a mental struggle I went through recently that I hope will help others who are facing big decisions and choices in their life right now.
Many, especially women, including me, are afraid to change directions in life because they think that doing so makes them look wishy-washy or indecisive, and will bring criticism from other people. But, there are moments in our lives when it becomes necessary to re-evaluate what is the most purposeful and truthful way to continue serving others and sharing the wisdom, knowledge and gifts that we have.
Several months ago, after some lengthy meditating and thinking about my life, I made the decision to retire this winter, to give up my New York coaching & Tantra practice and move full-time to my lovely temple in Maui. I told all my clients, I sent out emails, and announced it on Facebook and Twitter. All very public and loud.
And then my situation began changing. I heard back from so many clients who had put off seeing me; I met and am about to begin working with a new colleague; and I had a new opportunity to film and create an online course working with a start-up in New York City.
Now life was opening up all these new possibilities for me, but only if I stayed in New York!
But if I stayed, wouldn’t it look bad? I had made a big public announcement about moving just a few months ago. It could be embarrassing to turn around. I felt stuck.
How do you decide when a decision needs to be undone? When the path you started on is no longer the right one?
How do you tell a real calling from a whim?
How do you know if you are making a smart move, or just letting fear hold you back?
By reconnecting deeply with your PURPOSE.
For me, my purpose is to help and heal.
Any time I help someone I feel my soul expand. In this bigger space, I receive new information from the deeper part of me that feels the connection and honors the courage that people have to open up to me about sensitive issues like sex and intimacy and their shame and their dreams.
So I took more time to meditate deeply on how moving to Maui or staying in New York would serve my purpose best. Of course, there were the new opportunities in New York, but there could be different opportunities in Maui too.
So, what about the day-to-day? What about the work that I do one-on-one with couples and men and women?
I saw that many of my clients that I have an ongoing, trusted healing relationship with are in the middle of becoming the best they can be and would be feeling abandoned if I left.
And lately, I have had more than usual requests for Tantric private sessions.
Many men who have challenges with ED that medicine wasn’t helping have been able to get to know their bodies more intimately, especially the first chakra, which was often neglected. They love to discover subtle channels of energy and pleasure that run throughout their own entire body
including their lingam. They feel pleasure they were afraid they would never have again.
Women, many more of them, are finally discovering new ways of breathing that take them to a relaxed place where they can just open and receive. Their energy body becomes bigger and more expanded. They use the increased energy for healing and for higher pleasure and deeper intimacy. They trust me and feel warmed by my non-judgmental, deeply caring approach and powerful practical tools that help them feel their own power and sexiness.
And then, I could see clearly how my change of direction has become necessary and evident.
With the clarity of purpose, the fear of being judged or criticized was gone; now I can proudly announce that I will continue being the Life Coach Expert I’ve been, even more dedicated.
I am channeling this new influx of energy and openness into a new instructional on-line course, which will be ready in approximately 3 months. Watch for more news on that!
I am available again for private appointments – you can book your session here >>
And I will be offering a brand new set of evening workshops, beginning in November after my next Group Certification Training. Watch for a list of new workshop dates in your email soon.
Thank you for being part of my Tantra community, in New York and online, and thank you to all the clients who reached out to with gratitude and best wishes to me over the past few months. I am honored to continue to serve you as a healer and coach.
Are you struggling with a big decision or change of direction in your life? Can you look at what fires you up and drives you forward – your true purpose? When you measure your options against that purpose, does one option seem clearer and more consistent with that purpose?
I would love to hear if this helped you.