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Which is Best – The Vaginal or Clitoral Orgasm?

In a Many Curryville blog Steve Czamoray commented: “For over a hundred years,  sexual stamina researchers, feminists and pop-culture have been enmeshed in an ongoing debate as to which is superior: the vaginal or clitoral orgasm. Which is the Best Female Orgasm?” 

While I am staying out of the medical debate about penile enlargement and its consequences to your health, as a Tantrika I can say that the size of your penis has little to do with her having the greatest orgasm she can have. For you, it is very much a matter of being in control of your mind that often scares you by telling you that you will repeat the same poor performance of previous times, and using the right angles during intercourse.

It is essential to really connect with her, to know how to use your love muscles (PC muscles), using breathing and concentration techniques to avoid premature ejaculation while building up the charge. A premature ejaculation is an ejaculation that happens before you want it. Your muscles start pumping out the semen involuntarily. You need to learn to control them, and in many cases strengthen them. If you ejaculate before your lover has reached an orgasm, whether clitoral or vaginal or both, it is an ejaculation that is premature.

Tantra can give you the techniques you need to achieve results you desire. Furthermore it provides you with the added satisfaction of connecting more deeply with your lover. When you allow their love in, instead of being closed off in your head, worried about how you will perform, you will relax and actually be a better lover.

About her orgasms: a clitoral orgasm can happen with just rubbing on the outside of the clitoris. It can be achieved during intercourse if her clitoris is close to the introitus of the yoni so it gets strokes by your lingam, otherwise she needs extra stimulation from the outside. You can help her achieve vaginal orgasms, whether g spot or cervical orgasms, during intercourse by adjusting your angle of entry and doing the right hip movements.

The clitoral orgasm can not be compared to vaginal orgasms. It’s like comparing apples with oranges. The clitoral orgasm is more intense and more similar to the male orgasm, whereas the vaginal orgasms are more feminine in nature: more wavelike and can last for a long time and can be repeated. A woman can have a series of vaginal orgasms, but usually only one or two clitoral orgasm. Then the clitoris becomes too sensitive to continue.

I really hope I have helped shine some light on the debate. What do you like more: oranges or apples? I myself like both and both are incredibly pleasurable.

{ 34 comments… add one }
  • Debbie G January 12, 2009, 2:44 pm

    In Dec 2005 I met this wonderful man that turned out to be a fantastic lover, we’ve shared this phenomal experience for the last 3 years and I had no idea what it was until I started googling on the internet. I’ve read the experience taking 30 mins, we’ve gone as long as 50 mins, it is just so incredible. But we do all the things breathing, sensing each other, taking seconds to regroup and of course I am very deeply in love with him. I likened the experience to going to heaven and hovering above the clouds, there are simply no words to describe this phenoma and we both stumbled upon it. Clearly, though we are both alike and share the same desires for passion and lovemaking. He is an incredible lover.

  • Rick Daley May 14, 2009, 11:17 pm

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    And I also agree about what you said about clitoris and vaginal orgasm
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    Rick

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    Just want to rebuff this can’t happen with your wife. I am a wife and lover. Of course, my husband is the best lover and incredible things have happened to me. Totally weird and incredible things.

    The cloud experience was the first. My first one was like being enveloped in a cloud. This heightened and became even more concentrated. Then there is much, much more.

    I would like to exchange any information about deeper female sexual orgasms.

    Please no fakers, just share. If you think it is unbelievable, I will believe because I know what has happened to me.

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  • eto September 29, 2010, 1:12 pm

    I can give my girlfriend intense (I hope) clitoral orgasms by using my mouth or hands, but I cannot get her to orgasm via penetration, at least without using my hand as well. I know that she has had vaginal orgasms before (once), and I’ve gotten her close, but I just can’t seem to do it. I know I am bigger than her last boyfriend, and she tells me of course it doesn’t matter, but it still eats at me. Any ideas?

  • CarlaTara October 2, 2010, 12:44 am

    First of all I honor you for wanting to completely satisfy your girlfriend.
    Many men feel similar frustration when the woman does not orgasm during penetration.
    It does not always depend on the man’s expertise. It often depends on how close the clitoris is to the vaginal entrance.

    If it is close to the entrance, the clitoris is stimulated by the penis with every movement.
    If the clitoris is situated much higher, away from the entrance, the in and out movements do not stimulate the clitoris enough.

    Have you tried with her on top? That would give her the control to move on you in a way that stimulates her clitoris…and you would enjoy her juices flowing onto you. There are several positions that you may want to try before giving up. Make it a journey of ‘discovery’ and have fun with it. Invite her to discover how she can reach the stimulation she needs to have an intense clitoral orgasm… be both engaged in the discovery. Enjoy the process and do not get attached to the results. You obviously love each other and that is important. Play with each other and have fun!

  • Danielle October 14, 2010, 9:40 pm

    The truth about the female orgasm lies in the second to last paragraph.
    ” The clitoral orgasm is more intense and more similar to the male orgasm, whereas the vaginal orgasms are more feminine in nature: more wavelike and can last for a long time and can be repeated. A woman can have a series of vaginal orgasms, but usually only one or two clitoral orgasm.”
    Thank you! I’m amazed how ignorant and mislead are the so called “specialist on the female sexuality” out there. Vaginal orgasms are easier to achieve, which is why many people haven’t even discovered the clitoral orgasms. It took me 4 years of sex to find out I could ejaculate (squirt) and 6 years to discover the toe-curling, eye-rolling, breath-taking, fist-making clitoral orgasms WITH the help of a vibrator only.

  • Tata February 10, 2014, 5:26 pm

    I’m a woman, and i know my body. The description you make of the “vaginal orgasm” as “more feminine” is not a true orgasm. It’s only a good sensation during intercourse. This good sensation is like a wave with up and down. This is not a multiple orgasm. This is not an orgasm! Period. Ma n’y women believe that they are vaginal orgasm, but don’t know what a true orgasm is. And this kind of article keep them ignorants…