Excerpt from “Tantra Love”
Tantra Love requires a willingness to “become the other.”
Using the breath to shift your focus between you and your partner, you eventually forget who you are and relax into just being. This moment of transcending your personality is very energizing for both partners, and harmonizes the relationship. Any Tantric Love session starts with preparing with care a sacred space for the encounter, and honoring your partner with a heart salutation.
This opens you up to new feelings of relaxation, self-acceptance, and self-esteem. Then you proceed by looking lovingly into each other’s eyes, and do some breathing together to harmonize your energies.
Now you are ready to make any communication you have in your heart at that moment. You can confide some of your fears and you can express how much you love your partner, both communications being equally important. Tantra love is based on total honesty. Any secret, any withholding, any mind stuff you keep from your partner becomes a wall that separates you. So before you exchange sexual energy, you make a declaration of the intention to honor the God in each other, and put on the altar as an offering to the fire of love anything that isn’t love, such as jealousy, manipulation, anger, dishonesty and other love-denying emotions. Thus, freed from the weight of such restricting energies, we get to experience the purity of sex. At this level we exchange subtle energies of acceptance, love, and light.
The four keys to tantric love are breathing, movement, sound, and visualization. They are used to harmonize your inner man and your inner woman, and to transform your body into a stream of vibrating energy that cleanses all the built-up tensions, turning them into highly pleasurable sensations. By staying relaxed in states of high arousal, you permit orgasmic energy to flow through your whole body. Then you can channel orgasmic energy up the chakras toward the brain where it can be experienced as ecstasy.