On Valentine’s day lovers go out of their way to buy presents for each other, or at least the traditional chocolate and/or flowers. Some more adventurous lovers take a vacation together to create more time with each other in a different, often more romantic environment.
Studies show that a change of environment provides newness and diversity, which tend to stimulate romantic sentiments. But romance is not love. Believing that love equals romance leaves many people disconnected and lonely, and the lucky ones who have a lover waiting for the elusive romance to prove they are loved.
Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, a leading researcher of positive emotions at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, offers scientific evidence that the thousands of year old Tantric body of knowledge has known. I’m glad that science is now catching up with proving what Tantra had been teaching.
According to this scientific research, love is a connection, characterized by a flood of positive emotions, which you share with another person.
Love is not caused by wishful thinking, projections, or romantic fantasies. Love is felt in the body when you feel a warm heart-opening, a buzz of tenderness and passion. When it happens you transmit that to the person who resonates with the same ‘buzz’. Tantra says it cat be transmitted in many ways, including with our eyes, your sincerely felt words, your touch… or even with silent presence.
According to Dr. Fredrickson, this is what happens in the body when you love: the powerfully bonding hormone called Oxytocin floods your body with a warm feeling of love that cannot be produced just by imagination or fantasizing: it can be produced only when there is a connection between two people. Then positive resonance goes back and forth as if in a dance.
Tantra says Love is an unhindered, spontaneous dance between the masculine and the feminine energy (Shiva and Shakti)
Oxytoxin facilitates the calm-and-connect system, which is produced in higher quantities during sex has the the opposite effect of fight-and-flight system: it calms the body and opens it up to bond in more trust and love.
There is another very important element for love to happen: the vagus nerve, which connects your brain to your heart. It creates a love tone, called the “vagal tone” which can be measured by assessing the combined heart and breath.
The feeling of love produces hormones that reduce stress, increase circulation. Love is important to keep us healthy. In fact even science is starting to prove that love is a potent medicine… and it has no counter-indications!!!!
Tantra understands and teaches how to create and sustain the connection between breath, heart and sex centered in a way that still needs to be proven by science.
The lovers who want to bring their own level of passion to a higher, more sustainable level choose to study and experience Tantra. They usually study with a teacher who helps them bring home techniques to find and sustain an increased emotional depth and superior passion.