The R’n’B singer Rhianna recently quipped that all she wants this Christmas is “some great food and great sex.” What a wish list! Creating beautiful, tasty dishes, and the time and space for connected love-making, are two of my favorites of the Sixty-Four Tantric Arts.
We know about the healing properties of fresh, home-made food. But what about fresh, home-made, loving sex?
One of the best ways to live longer while feeling and looking younger has a lot to do with giving and receiving love and having good sex. As you’ll see, it also helps stave off colds, which is good news come the holiday season.
I saw Dr. Daniel G. Aman present astounding facts about the brain at the World Anti-Aging Conference last year. Dr. Aman is a brain specialist who wrote an amazing book called Magnificent Mind at Any Age, about the brain’s effect on how we feel, our outlook on life, our longevity and our ability to be happy and healthy.
In his presentation to about 2,000 doctors interested in age management and preventive intervention in maintaining a healthy body healthy into old age, Dr. Aman mentioned a Cleveland Study based on the beneficial results to men who were feeling loved. 10,000 men who participated in this study were asked the question: “Does your wife show you love?” The ones who answered Yes were statistically proven to live significantly longer than those who answered No.
Mentioning different tests, Dr. Aman informed us that men who have frequent sex are 50% less likely to have a heart attack. He said jokingly that women who avoid sex commit ‘slow murder’ on their husbands… and immediately added that women who do not enjoy sex are 50% more likely to get heart attacks. Therefore men who are not making their women sexually happy are committing ‘slow murder’, too…
Humorous remarks aside, modern science is confirming that good sex contributes to a longer, healthier, and happier life. Several studies have proven that men having good, loving sex at least 3 times a week have greater prostate health, better sleep, get sick less often, are more athletic and have a brighter outlook in life.
A British study showed that women who had more sex had better memory recall, their menstrual cycles were lighter, they had fewer colds, had fewer problems with weight control, were looking and feeling younger and had better skin. It makes total sense to me. I have noticed that women who have frequent sex have a lightness about them and a spring in their steps that other women do not have.
You have probably observed it yourself. When you have sex you feel lighter, you smile more, and work is easier. Your high spirits are contagious so interactions with loved ones go more smoothly.
Tantric love, being deeper and longer lasting and more satisfying than most “regular” sex, would take care of the “slow murder” predicament. Men and women who practice Tantra synchronize their breath to activate their touch with love, and dance the dance of love together, entering each other’s souls and taking sex to a high level of connection and great satisfaction.
Men learn to follow their woman’s pace, which is usually slower but steadier, and enjoy riding their woman’s waves of ecstasy before they concentrate on their own orgasms. Men who understand Tantric sex have stronger erections, sustain them longer, and have greater, longer-lasting full body orgasms and stronger ejaculations.
It would be fantastic if all doctors could see the importance of sex for greater health and longevity and start prescribing sex at least 3 times a week. Having good sex is the most pleasant way I know to contribute to your longevity while celebrating this wonderful gift from nature that nourishes both body and soul and attracts male and female energies to merge in pleasure and love.
We know that love is the best medicine, and now science is starting to prove it. Instead of running around searching out presents for your loved one and simultaneously bringing more stress into your life, especially in these financially challenging times, I recommend that you give yourself the gift of making love more often and longer. (Try a home-made gift certificate for 3 hours of love-making time.)
See the miracles that can happen when you put even half the amount of energy into your love-making this season that you do into Christmas food and buying presents. Managing your relatives at Christmas this year might just be a piece of cake!
Give yourself the gift of Tantra and give each other the gift of Love and Greater Health. Happy, juicy holidays!