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Breathing Techniques for Better Lovemaking – Part 1

There are 3 stages of lovemaking, each requiring a different breath. In this post I’m going to talk about the first and most important stage of lovemaking, which requires the Ocean Breath™.

The first stage of breath is the incredibly important and often underestimated Ocean Breath™. The Ocean Breath™ empowers the heart to open, the body to relax and connect with the sensations and feelings that flow within your body and the body of your lover.

If the feelings are not stuck and seem impossible to express, this gently flowing breath melts the blocks that keep the energy from flowing. Good lovemaking can not happen unless the heart center opens up, and the Ocean Breath™ is the fasted way to open this marvelous portal of love.

You allow the breath to come into your slightly opened mouth and let it float down into the lower part of the lungs. The diaphragm respond to this with moving down to make room for the lungs to elongate. This creates a gentle, empowering massage of the sex center.

Any touch, but especially the water touch –this relaxing, nurturing touch– when synchronized with the Ocean Breath™ can take the touch deeper into the body of your lover, touching the very core.

The Ocean Breath™ opens you up for communication on a deep level. Breathing this way helps you become aware of all that needs to be expressed to be fully present to love. What emerges with the Ocean Breath™ could be anything such as desires, needs that have been suppressed, expression of gratefulness, a strong longing to connect. It is the best preparation for the so called ‘foreplay’. I call it the ‘pre-foreplay’.

The Ocean Breath™ opens up energies stored in the sex and power center and get them moving throughout the whole body, a great preparation for multiple orgasms.

The second stage – the nose breath with a longer exhalation through your mouth is best used during the second part of the foreplay and the beginning of intercourse, and the more advanced third stage breath is the controlled breath.

Important note: you can always revert back to the Ocean Breath™ when find yourself disconnected from your partner, or thinking you should do something different than what is happening and/or forcing to reach a goal. The Ocean Breath™ will take you back to the present moment.

Another note: A woman does not have to learn the stage three breath because she does not need to control the energy unless she wants to.

Love, Carla

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  • Max January 18, 2012, 7:27 pm

    That’s all well and good but I once had a lover who was so into conscious breath that it seemed that i was making love to Darth Vador sometimes:P